http://www.tianyahaige.net/index.php zh-cn http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?18 evin <> Thu, 27 Dec 2007 04:12:57 +0000 http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?18 Mon 在本集中体现的是一种生活中常见的精神疾患------强迫症症状。
那么什么是强迫症？强迫症又应该怎样克服呢？
强迫症（Obsessive-compulsive neurosis，缩写OCD）







症状分类：
一、强迫观念
即某种联想、观念、回忆或疑虑等顽固地反复出现，难以控制。
（一）强迫联想：反复回忆一系列不幸事件会发生，虽明知不可能，却不能克制，并激起情绪紧张和恐惧。
（二）强迫回忆：反复回忆曾经做过的无关紧要的事，虽明知无任何意义，却不能克制，非反复回忆不可。
（三）强迫疑虑：对自己的行动是否正确，产生不必要的疑虑，要反复核实。如出门后疑虑门窗是否确实关好，反复数次回去检查。不然则感焦虑不安。
（四）强迫性穷思竭虑：对自然现象或日常生活中的事件进行反复思考，明知毫无意义，却不能克制，如反复思考：“房子为什么朝南而不朝北。”
（五）强迫对立思维：两种对立的词句或概念反复在脑中相继出现，而感到苦恼和紧张，如想到“拥护”，立即出现“反对”；说到“好人”时即想到“坏蛋”等。
二、强迫动作
（一）强迫洗涤：反复多次洗手或洗物件，心中总摆脱不了“感到脏”，明知已洗干净，却不能自制而非洗不可。
（二）强迫检查：通常与强迫疑虑同时出现。患者对明知已做好的事情不放心，反复检查，如反复检查已锁好的门窗，反复核对已写好的账单，信件或文稿等。
（三）强迫计数：不可控制地数台阶、电线杆，做一定次数的某个动作，否则感到不安若漏掉了要重新数起。
（四）强迫仪式动作：在日常活动之前，先要做一套有一定程序的动作，如睡前要一定程序脱衣鞋并按固定的规律放置，否则感到不安，而重新穿好衣、鞋、再按程序脱。
三、强迫意向：
在某种场合下，患者出现一种明知与当时情况相违背的念头，却不能控制这种意向的出现，十分苦恼。如母亲抱小孩走到河边时，突然产生将小孩扔到河里去的想法，虽未发生相应的行动，但患者却十分紧张、恐惧。
四、强迫情绪（obsessive emotion）
具体表现主要是强迫性恐惧。这种恐惧是对自己的情绪会失去控制的恐惧，如害怕自己会发疯，会做出违反法律或社会规范甚至伤天害理的事，而不是像恐怖症患者那样对特殊物体、处境等的恐惧。
五、强迫恐惧
此种恐惧与病人的强迫性思维有联系，病人害怕自己会出现对立思维，而产生强烈的情绪反应。如害怕在某些场合自己会出现强迫，而感到恐惧，从而尽量逃避参加这样的场合。
六、强迫行为（obsessive behavior）
具体表现，可以是屈从性强迫行为，如反复检查煤气是否关好、门是否锁上；可以是对抗性强迫行为，如反复在内心告诫自己不要把强迫意向转变成实际行动；也可以是强迫性仪式动作，如进家门必须先跨左腿、出门之前必须按序化装等。此外还可以是强迫计数、强迫洗手、强迫眨眼、强迫摇头、强迫咬指甲等。

自我治疗：
要将强迫症状瓦解，然后做该做的事，要花极大的力气与承受莫大的痛苦。我们运用十五分钟法则，就是延缓强迫症反应时间至少15分钟以上。刚开始时可以从延缓5分钟做起。原则是一致的也就是：千万不要没有延迟就立即反应。注意这不是被动的等待15分钟，然后你要做其它有兴趣、有建设性的活动。在一段时间之后，再评估强迫症的冲动，看看强度是否下降，并且记录下来。即使一点小小的下降，也要鼓励、奖赏自己。强迫症患者常常会有求完美、100分的心态，所以也常不满足一点点的成就，总是认为自己做得不够好，以致行为治疗无法成功。目标是延迟15分钟以上，只要不断地练习，将会大大地减低强迫症的强度。一般而言，越多的练习，就会越顺手。不久之后就可以延迟20分钟或30分钟以上了。　
研究表明，30分钟内如果你成功从事了另外一项工作，那么大脑的兴奋点就会转移。多进行这种跳出思维训练，就可以在出现强迫征兆的时候管控自己的思维和行动。

Topic 2 : 关于 一夜情




Why can't we just have what we have now? Why can't we just talk, and laugh, and make love, without feeling obligated to one another... and up until tonight I thought that's what you wanted too.
本集，Chandler 在明知道Laura有丈夫，也有情人的情况下，出于男性的本能，心甘情愿的作了Laura男友二号，说得直白些，是Laura的ONS 炮友。Laura 在Chandler 之后又发展出新的炮友，引起了Chandler的不满，最后两人ONS关系终结。
那么，ONS是什么？为什么会有ONS发生？ONS群体的心理背景是什么？ONS的潜规则又有哪些？我们又该怎样面对这一社会现象呢？本期将对此作详尽的探讨。



ONS,是英文one night stand的缩写，中文简称一夜情。

一夜情是指先前男女双方并不是男女朋友,在某些情境下因为一时的感觉,冲动、爱慕或发泄排遣寂寞而发生性行为。

美国社会学家John K. C.作了以下定义："一夜情"主要是基於男女双方动物性的吸引,男女主角大多考虑对方的外貌、身体等非社会性因素,而忽略了恋人相处时应注重的主因,例如性格,品质,修养等.从这个意义上说,"一夜情"是一种退步的表现,是人向动物的一种退化。

但是在目前现实生活中，特别是网络飞速发展的今天，一夜情通常成为有些人基於好奇,想为平淡无趣的生活添加一点刺激,相尝试浪漫而无负担的性爱,或想安慰身心的寂寞,短暂的解放自己和一种方式,但是大多数的人都没有考虑到后果,所带来的后遗症就是健康和安全没有保障,同时也造成社会道德的沦丧，是对文明社会的公开挑战。

有关专家认为，以前受封建意识的影响，国人心理上存在误区，认为性是不健康的。因此不敢过于追求性生活、性健康，婚前或非婚性关系会遭到社会的强烈谴责，性处于禁锢状态。而随着对性认识的变化，人们对性的态度也有了改变，国人会主动追求“性福”，婚前性行为也日益普遍，性行为的发生年龄也有所提前，“一夜情”目前更是泛滥成灾。但是，在“性革命”的同时，“性泛滥”也应运而生，并引发了一系列的社会问题。

一夜情潜规则tips



1 尽量不留正确资料给对方：大家明天以后就不再见面，不留姓名、电话比较好，一般都是使用英文名字，反正就说自己是什么Honey、Rosy、Lily之类的就好。



2 ONS进行地点：建议你选饭店或宾馆做为ONS的地点，因为为了你的安全起见，尽量不要让对方知道你住在哪里，其次也不能去他家，谁知道会不会有什么奇怪的设备或危险。何况你们都要发生关系了，既然是你情我愿，就让男生付个旅馆钱吧！



3 要进行适当的交谈，减少彼此的陌生感，卸下彼此之间的心防，因为毕竟ONS不是在买卖第三产业服务。



4 但绝对不能只顾聊天，那就变成买椟还珠了。见过去自助西餐厅只吃餐前面包的人吗？把自己聊累了，等同于用餐前面包填饱了等着吃西餐的肚子。



5 在适当的时候大胆说出你的欲望，一夜过后，没有机会再让你学习四年专业课了。



6 安全性行为：虽然理论上这是高中生都该有的常识，但是还是要提醒你，所谓安全性行为是指全程使用保险套，并不是直到最后一刻才用保险套。



7 不要去太亮的地方：这个提醒是针对妆很浓，或是在PUB里很美，但是不适宜见光的部分女性。老实说你应该要有这样的自觉，要是你画了大浓妆，在一般灯光下看一定很恐怖，所以不管跟对方转战哪一摊，都避免去灯光明亮的地方，以避免遇到对方倒阳，尿遁开溜的窘境。



8 不主动打电话：请不要做那种第二天打电话给人家的傻事，那不是出来玩的态度，尽量不要互留电话的原因是，免得被对方当成随传随到的炮友，这很没自尊。但是如果对方表现很赞，你个人想留他当炮友，那就只拿对方的电话，不要留自己的电话给他。总之，要拿到性关系的主控权。



9 尽量不要帮对方Blow Job，因为不知道安不安全。再说一次，你又不跟他交往，又不嫁给他，犯不着这么努力，但是如果对方愿意帮你BJ，那你一定要试一试，有人肯服务，你可不要浪费。



10 绝对避免涉入感情：如果很少尝试ONS，心理建设就很重要，你要有决心，有本事出来玩就要有本事放得下，决不能有感情的涉入。



还有性爱过程中尽量不要闭着眼睛，不要来东方女人羞涩那一套，因为你要睁大眼睛注意对方的小弟弟，看看你满不满意尺寸和硬度，还有上面有没有奇怪的蔬菜型生物，这件事关乎你的性爱满意度以及人身安全，千万不要不好意思，要是觉得有任何不对劲，要马上离开，反正以后永不相逢，不用给对方面子！ 想想你要是因为没注意不小心染上怪病，那就得不偿失了。(PS多嘴 告诉大家一个重要的科学常识，保险套不能防止菜花传染，这非常恐怖唷！)



一夜情进行中与结束后……

在ONS进行的过程中，有几个建议给你：何不到你一直希望尝试的地点去做，不管是PUB的洗手间、野外、停车场、你老板的办公室……，听起来都很刺激。多试试你一直想做却从来没做过的姿势，不管谁在上谁在下，只要两人尽性就好。要不就试试满足你的性幻想，带眼罩啦、丝袜绑手啦、泰国浴……，让ONS满足自己的性幻想不是很棒吗！

在ONS的激烈运动结束后，有几个不错的选项，例如：迅速的起身洗澡回家，毕竟又不熟，干嘛一起睡觉。如果很幸运的在五星级饭店，试试叫对方付好钱，把他赶回家，你好好睡一觉。如果对方人不错，幽默又可爱，跟他去吃个宵夜，再回家。要是你不小心把他带回家，无论如何要在完事后赶他回家，不然你想煮早餐给他吃吗？再说要是性爱经验不愉快，你会愿意跟他吃早餐吗？大家就省省吧！

读完这篇文章，也许每个人的想法都不一样，也许有人会认为一夜情不太好，也有很多女人因为碍于传统对女性的束缚，对于一夜情一直都是想做而不敢做。但是身处于二十一世纪的女性，已经拥有选择权，同时也有必要拥有性爱主导权，在性爱关系中，你可以自己决定要或不要，跟谁拥有性爱关系，只要不伤害别人，也小心保护自己，就不应该受到他人的影响，阻碍你自在享受性爱的愉悦。

但是，相对而言，找几个或者几十个性伙伴其实更容易一些。终生相伴，和心爱的人一起慢慢变老，这才是很考验人事情。做到了，绝对是可以引以为自豪的一件事。有个明星一生和1000多个女人上过床，有记者问他，在这方面谁比他更牛，他回答说：“一生只和一个女人上床的人！”




Odds & Ends
You can always spot someone who's never seen one of his plays before.

Notice, no fear, no sense of impending doom...

The exclamation point

Magic is about to happen.

I feel violated.

She's amazing! She makes the women that I dream about look like short, fat, bald men!

Well, go over to her! She's not with anyone.

Oh yeah, and what would my opening line be? 'Excuse me. Blarrglarrghh.'

Oh please, could she be more out of my league? Ross, back me up here.

He could never get a woman like that in a million years.

Oh, oh, but y'know, you always see these really beautiful women with these really nothing guys, you could be one of those guys.

Oh God, I can't believe I'm even considering this... I'm very very aware of my tongue...

Yes, yes I did, but what I didn't say was what I was about to say, what I wanted to say was, uh... would you like to go out with me sometime, thankyou, goodnight. (He walks back to the others but she calls him back.)

the usher

'cause this line is passion

I can't believe I've been here almost seven seconds and you haven't asked me how my date went.

So tell me, how do- how do you think your husband would feel about you sitting here with me?...Sliding your foot so far up my pant leg you can count the change in my pocket?

So explain something to me here, uh, what kind of a relationship do you imagine us having if you already have a husband and a boyfriend?

I suppose mainly sexual.

I'm sorry it didn't work out.
I mean, this is twisted! How could you get involved with a woman like this?

Well, y'know, I had some trouble with it at first too, but the way I look at it is, I get all the good stuff: all the fun, all the talking, all the sex; and none of the responsibility. I mean, this is every guy's fantasy!

So you guys don't mind going out with someone else who's going out with someone else?

When I'm with a woman, I need to know that I'm going out with more people than she is.

Well, y'know, monogamy can be a, uh, tricky concept. I mean, anthropologically speaking-

There's a theory, put forth by Richard Leakey-

Are we greeting each other this way now? 'Cause I like that.

Ottoman

Raggedy Ann
“破烂娃娃”是由漫画家约翰尼•格鲁埃尔根据女儿的一个破娃娃创造的艺术形象，诞生于1918年的圣诞。由于这个破娃娃是从奶奶的箱子里翻出来的，所以是很破烂的形象，但迎合了人们寻求手工制作玩具的潮流，因此很受欢迎。问题是莫尼卡要把这样一个“破烂娃娃”都修理打扮地完美，确实有一点强迫症。  

Thank God you didn't try to fan out the magazines. I mean, she'll scratch your eyes right out.

I'm responsible, I'm organised. But hey, I can be a kook.

you madcap gal

you let me go grocery shopping, and I buy laundry detergent, but it's not the one with the easy-pour spout.

Someone's left a glass on the coffee table. There's no coaster. It's a cold drink, it's a hot day. Little beads of condensation are inching their way closer and closer to the surface of the wood...

Can you believe this? Al Pacino! This guy's the reason I became an actor! "I'm out of order? Pfeeeh. You're out of order! This whole courtroom's out of order!"

"Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in!"

I'm his butt double.

it's terrific, it's... it's... y'know, you deserve this, after all your years of struggling, you've finally been able to crack your way into showbusiness.

You're right, you're right, it is...So you gonna invite us all to the big opening?

I need to borrow some moisturizer.

just don't ever tell me what you did in there.

do I sense a little bit of resentment?

believe me, it's worth it. 'Kay? Y'know in a relationship you have these key moments that you know you'll remember for the rest of your life? Well, every- single- second is like that with Aurora.. and I've just wasted about thirty-five of them talking to you people, so, uh.. Monica, can you help me with the door? (He has armloads of stuff.

Sure. Oh, um, Chandler? Y'know, the-the old Monica would-would remind you to scrub that Teflon pan with a plastic brush...But I'm not gonna do that.

I know there'll be many moments in the years to come when I'll regret asking the following question, but- And Andrew is?

so what you're saying is you're not completely fulfilled by Rick, Ethan and myself?

most women would kill for three guys like us.

...Well, y'know, part of me wants that, but it's like I'm two guys, y'know? I mean, one guy's going 'Shut up! This is great!' But there's this other guy. Actually it's the same guy that wells up every time that Grinch's heart grows three sizes and breaks that measuring device... And he's saying, y'know, 'This is too hard! Get out! Get out!'
“圣诞怪杰”是1966年哥伦比亚广播公司(CBS)创造的一个形象，他非常嫉恨人们过圣诞节，但最后他的心长大了三倍，高兴地加入了庆祝圣诞节的行列中。金•凯瑞近年曾经拍过以这个故事为题材的电影《鬼精灵》。

I don't know, I-I have to listen to both of them, they don't exactly let each other finish...

Sorry, the first guy runs the lips.

I mean, this woman was unbelievably sexy, and beautiful, intelligent, unattainable... Tell me why you did this again?

Something so sweet and...disturbing about that.

Y'know, I've done nothing but crappy plays for six years. And I finally get my shot, and I blow it!

Just casually strewn about in that reckless haphazard manner?



Tags - 老友记 , friends , 六人行 , 第一季 , 第五集 ]]> http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?13 evin <> Sun, 09 Dec 2007 14:44:16 +0000 http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?13
Topic Today
How to break up?

当男女双方中有一方体会到两人已经不适合在一起，而另一方却还茫然无知或执迷不悟时，要如何去暗示对方呢？专家说：“追求是一种技术、分手是一种艺术”，是不是有道理呢？当两个人渐行渐远时，要如何做到好聚好散呢，提供大家一些绝招，只要混合使用，分手也可以很简单。



方法一、冷漠无情，造成隔阂对方与你交谈时，尽量爱理不理的；当他高谈阔论时，不妨趁机冷嘲热讽一番；当他约你时，不妨浇他一点冷水。比方说，他提议去看电影，你就说，最近电影都太超难看的，找不到一部可以看的；他请你吃海鲜，你就答，最近夏天，吃海鲜容易食物中毒，要吃你自己去吃。总之，就是尽量摆出一付爱理不理的态度，冷言冷语，冷眼对待。哇！包准不出3天，他就可以立刻感受到两人之间这种诡异的气氛。



方法二、投其所恶，制造争吵机会投其所恶，他越不喜欢的事你越要做，即使自毁形象也没关系。比方说他不喜欢你挖鼻孔，你就越挖，挖到他受不了为止，你就借题发挥，趁机会大吵一架。



方法三、制造各种误会恋人之间长久相处，难免偶尔出现一些小小的误会，经过沟通之后，如能解释，彼此将会更了解对方，感情就更?浓烈；但相反地，两人之间如果常发生小误会，却置之不理，任其扩大成心结时，感情也就很难再挽回了。
    


方法四、制造距离，最为上策告诉他，你希望改善彼此之间的关系，所以想分开一段时间，彼此冷静一下，好好地思考两人之间的问题……等等。很少恋人能耐得住寂寞，更何况长期无法见面，再爱你的男人也会变心，有时当个被甩的人比当甩人的好些。



方法五、攻其父母，尤为下策有时什么方法都试了，也不见成效，此时用这招蛮有用的，为人子女，通常都不希望自己的父母被人说长道短的，你就利用人的此一弱点，有机会就攻击批评一下它的父母，不见得要真的讨厌他的父母，毕竟这只是一种手段。



方法六、制造第三者的尴尬有些尴尬的情况，其实是很好的结束恋情的方法。制造一个第三者，在无意之间把这个信息泄露出来，比方说，在床上亲热时，毫不经意地轻呼第三者名字；或是跟他的死党泄密，藉由别人的口传达，也不失为一种方法。



分手的故事林林总总，当爱情日益褪色时，也有女孩是以快刀斩乱麻的态度来结束感情的，坦白地告诉对方，自己不再爱他了；或当?给他难堪，让他下不了台；这些方式或许同样都可以达到分手的目的，但想想双方毕竟曾经相恋，爱他时会替他着想，不爱他时，是不是也能设身处地帮对方想一想。多考虑一下对方的感受，如此是现代女性处理自己感情时该有的态度。下面，提供一些分手对白，虽然很经典，但是衷心祝愿大家永远没有用它们的机会。

最古老的分手对白
我不想再影响你的前途，你可以找到比我更好的人……我不想再欺骗你和自己，希望你原谅我吧！我会永远祝福你的。
评语：四平八稳，但是作用不会太好，就像是青霉素，很多都市男女都对此有了抗药 性。通常还会纠缠一段时间。

最以攻为守的分手对白
你对我太好了，但要我付出跟你同样多去爱你，我又做不到。你这样付出只令我有太大太大的压力，我好辛苦，放过我吧！
评语：这通常是实话，效果也算不错。虽然没有说你的付出对于我来说是负担。

最适合痴狂少年的分手对白
请你回答我以下的问题：你见到我的时候是不是有点开心和兴奋？你见到我的时候是不是好想接近我？你是不是好想时时刻刻都见到我？你是不是有好多东西想同我讲，但是见到我的时候又不知道说什么才好？我见到四大天王的心情就和你的一样，只是痴慕，不是爱，你想想四大天王又怎么可能和我在一起？正如我不能和你在一起一样！
评语：富批判现实主义色彩，也有教育意义。

最委婉动人的分手对白
我家里的狗不太喜欢你，你家里的猫不太喜欢我，所以不要再说什么，以后你慢慢就会明白的。
评语：非常世俗非常有效。

最粗糙生硬的分手对白
和你分手！不需要什么理由和借口，只是已经对你没有感觉了！
评语：这样的人，还有什么好理论的。

最藕断丝连的分手对白
你实在太爱我了！我觉得很对你不起，真的对不起……其实我也很希望我们的爱是有将来的……可是……路途太崎岖，太难走……你对我比对你自己还好……我真的无以为报……我真的对不起你……没有未来的爱情是痛苦的……我现在真的很痛苦……我们的爱真的是没有结局的吗？我很怕……为什么你要对我这么好？我真的很想跟你结婚……可以吗？我们本应是很有将来的，以前的我们不是很开心的吗？为什么会这样？但我们的距离越来越远，就只怪我们有缘无分吧！
评语：真的很感人，说到这里，为什么还要分手？好好在一起过吧。

最后，附上chandler的分手对白：



个人感觉，chandler已经很有勇气了，可能是因为，提出分手确实需要一定的勇气，但chandler要和   Janice  一起过下去所需的勇气其实更大。

本期相关影片推荐：
Breakin’ all the rules
中文译名：分手专家
一句话点评：恋爱男女分手技巧的搞笑巅峰之作。
搞笑程度：胜过  Friends
看点：
黑人全明星上阵——杰米•福克斯是一位在电视、电影、主持、模特各方面都出色的全能选手，1999年奥利佛•斯通导演的励志影片《挑战星期天》（Any Given Sunday）让我们第一次全面的认识这位多面手。他同时还在MTV CHANNER主持一档脱口秀节目（Jamie Foxx SHOW）。他今年将出现在一部大制作影片中，那就是汤姆克鲁斯的新片《借刀杀人》（Collateral），杰米•福克斯将会再次展示他出色的演技。本片的黑人女星是加布里艾尔•尤尼恩，她曾在刚刚结束的《六人行》里出演罗斯的大学教授女友，就是前男友不是著名科学家就是诺贝尔奖得主的那位。她还在李连杰和DMX的动作片和去年的卖座片《绝地战警2》里面出演。这次她在本片中将和杰米•福克斯展开爱情斗秀，比拼甩人绝技。本片中还有一位演技派明星莫里斯•切斯纳特，他一直都是黑人生活片的顶尖演员，他主演的《The Best Man》，《Two Can Play That Game》，《The Brothers》都是黑人影坛的点金之作。
评论：
本片导演丹尼尔•塔力兹显示了他驾驭演员的出色能力，而且设置了许多出人意料的原创笑料。他得到了他想要的反浪漫效果。不象大多数浪漫喜剧那样的程式化的老套故事，通过每个人物的个性设定发展的小包袱来的自然和不做作。丹尼尔•塔力兹的故事显然相当有趣，是一个寻找方法到方法限制的话题。不象大多数浪漫喜剧那样的程式化的老套故事，这部片让我们重新对此类影片有了兴趣。

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画外音：
Multiple Orgasms



目前的主流学说认为，男子在射精后，附性腺的液体通通排空，这通常需要一些时间使之得到补充和再分泌，对年轻人来讲它大约只要几小时，对中老年来讲它可能需要十几小时至几天时间。只有附性腺的分泌达到一定程度后才会产生所谓的胀满的感觉，才能激发和诱起男性的性紧张，然后通过不同方式使分泌物得到排泄和使性紧张得到缓解。既然女性不射精，也就没有这种胀满排泄欲，在性高潮之后她们也就不需要得到分泌物的补充，因此也就不存在不应期。所以女性往往能体验到    multiple orgasms.

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音外画：
She is too much for me in bed, sexually.
He is unbelievable in bed.



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Odds & Ends
Not that big a deal? It's amazing. Ok, you just reach in there, there's one little maneuver, and bam, a bra right out the sleeve. All right, as far as I'm concerned, there is nothing a guy can do that even comes close. Am I right?
maneuver    源自法语，本意是“体力劳动”，在英语中作名词时是“策略、巧计、花招”的意思，在这里表示一种很巧妙的动作或手法。
http://www.biku.com/opus/player.swf?VideoID=17334&embed=true&autoStart=false

Come on! You guys can pee standing up.
pee   比较诙谐文雅的说法，  I need to answer a call from nature.

Ok, you know what blows my mind? Women can see breasts any time they want. You just look down and there they are. How you get any work done is beyond me.
blow one’s mind    “对某件事情感到既惊奇又兴奋”

Oh, ok, you know what I don't get? The way guys can do so many mean things, and then not even care.
Mean,   “很不好、卑鄙的”

No, I know, but it's just so hard, you know? I mean, you're sitting there with her, she has no idea what's happening, and then you finally get up the courage to do it, and there's the horrible awkward moment when you've handed her the note.
.“get up the courage to do sth”，   鼓足勇气做某事

but I think she'd    联合起来(结成一伙),共同攻击。

hunger strike

Why so scrunchy?
Scrunchy   弯曲的，怪怪的。

Mercedes convertible



That guy, he burns me up.

You're-not-up-to-this

Actually, I got the extended disco version, with three choruses of "You'll never make it on your own".

being dumped by you obviously agrees with her

I don't wanna seem too eager

That seems pretty cool.

Mississippi
One Mississippi，，two Mississippi,three Mississippi
    乔伊在咖啡馆巧遇前女友安杰拉，安杰拉似乎对他不再有感觉。乔伊决定重新去认识她，但为了不显得焦急，就数了三下：   One Mississippi，two Mississippi，three Mississippi，   然后再走上前去。这其实是橄榄球运动员开球前的数数方法，有时要数到   Five Mississippi，   所以乔伊说这个办法很酷。

That's because I'm wearing a dress that accents my boobs.

big glamour night. Me and Monica at Laundorama.

you wanna hear a freaky coincidence?

Was that not clear?

Apparently they're attracted to the dryer sheets, and they're goin' in fine, but they're comin' out all.... fluffy. Anyway, say, sevenish?
Sevenish   七点左右

Who the hell's Bob?

Bob is great. He's smart, he's sophisticated, and he has a real job. You, you go on three auditions a month and you call yourself an actor, but Bob...

Not after your cousin who could belch the alphabet.
belch the alphabet.
“belch the alphabet”belch    本意是打嗝、喷射，这里表示“吐出”，所谓打嗝会嗝出字母，就是指有些无聊的人，会故意打一个长长的嗝，然后会利用打嗝发出字母的音，是一种很粗俗又没教养的行为。

Ugly Naked Guy's laying kitchen tile.

What's going on here? You go out with tons of girls.

hold on camper, are you sure you've thought this thing through?

It's laundry. The thinking through is pretty minimal.

Well, you may wanna rethink the dirty underwear. This is basically the first time she's gonna see your underwear—you want it to be dirty?

fabric softener

There you go   一般就是表示赞同、赞赏的意思。

Oh my god, Joey, for all we know this guy could be horribly... horribly attractive. I'll be shutting up now.

I had the most supremely awful day.

We got the proofs back from that photo shoot, you know, the one with the little vegetables. Anyway, they pretty much sucked, so, I blew off the rest of this afternoon, and I went shopping...(looks through her bags)... and I got you, I'm looking, I'm looking, I'm looking,
proofs照片样片
blew off the rest of this afternoon,    中英文字幕都存在严重错误！
Blow off 在这里应该是Ignore, abandon, refuse to take part  的意思。就是遇到之前的那些不愉快后，下午去消遣，去购物了。
中英文字幕都是汉化组后来加上去的，错误不少，但是已经很不错了，不可以责备求全。

What... did you get me there?

you can mix and match

I'm still working on mine.

that hug looked pretty brutal.

You weren't there

I was kinda using that machine.

Was your basket on top?

laundry spaz
spaz,   被人蔑视的)笨家伙

Ok, you caught me. I'm a laundry virgin.

basically you wanna use one machine for all your whites, a whole nother machine for colors, and a third for your uh, your uh, delicates, and that would be your bras and your under-panty things.
Under panty,   底裤

that would be a judgment call.

It is so great to meet a guy who is smart and funny, and has an emotional age beyond, like eight.
emotional age   心理年龄
“真是太棒了，他既聪明又风趣，并且心智还成熟得，超过那些……心智大约像8岁的小男生的那些男人”。

My brother never even told me when he lost his virginity.

Ok, you can do this. It's just like pulling off a Band-aid. Just do it really fast, and then the wound is exposed.

I don't think we should go out anymore.

Next on Ross.

marshmallow peep
marshmallow   就是棉花糖啊，流氓兔好像就是这个词。
marshmallow peep  是一个品牌，是人们在复活节，情人节，万圣节，圣诞节等节日上吃的点心，是棉花糖之类的，做成小鸡、小兔或南瓜等各种形状象征节日。




Underdog

they couldn't get his head to inflate

his head is like flopping down Broadway

I've got something in my eye, uh, Joey, could we check it in the light, please?

Were we at the same table? It's like... cocktails in Appalachia.

Oh, like you've never gotten a little rambunctious with Ross.

Joey, this is sick, it's disgusting

Oh my god, what were you thinking?

All right, look, I'm not proud of this, ok? Well, maybe I am a little.

if we put our heads together, between the two of us, we can break them up.

Here's the thing, Janice. You know, I mean, it's like we're different. I'm like the bing, bing, bing. You're like the boom, boom, (Chandler flails his hand out and hits Janice in the eye)... boom.

I hit her in the eye! I hit her in the eye! This is the worst break-up in the history of the world.

Jammy

Yeah, well, I had a 24-inch waist. You lose things. Now come on, get outta my way.

quit making up rules!

All right, listen, missy. If you want this cart, you're gonna have to take me with it!

We ripped that couple apart, and kept the pieces for ourselves.

he needed some time to grieve.

That oughta do it.




Tags - 老友记 , friends , 六人行第一季 , 第五集 ]]> http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?12 evin <> Sat, 01 Dec 2007 15:53:59 +0000 http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?12 Topic 1:
Who are we spying on?

为什么人们喜欢窥探名人的隐私？
对名人的隐私，并非人人都感兴趣；对别人的负面隐私，人们似乎更感兴趣。是否可以这么分析：通过对明星负面隐私的了解，去除明星身上的理想光环，从而看到一个真实有缺陷的现实的人，从对明星的否定中，人们找回了自信。以下是从弗洛伊德的精神分析角度来探寻窥探心理的根源：


个人成长的需要
人从娘胎降临到这个世界上，一切事物都是他们所未知的。对于孩子来说，世界上的所有事物，都属于疑问和隐私，他们怀着新奇、激动和迷惑开始接触、了解和适应这个世界。在这个过程中，越来越多的疑问和隐私就形成了一种动力，导致儿童形成对隐私的好奇和探求欲的形成。我们甚至可以说，人类是生来就存在好奇心，生来就存在对隐私的好奇的，喜欢窥探隐私，是天生的，是人类的天性。


为了获得别人的关注
人生活在特定的群体中，需要通过不同的方式来体现自己在这个群体中的地位，以满足被这个群体其他人关注的需要。就像在一个班级里面，成绩好的学生通过取得优异成绩来获得别人认可，成绩差的通过做小动作或调皮捣蛋来获得同学的关注。喜欢窥探别人隐私的人，大多数也是为了向别人炫耀自己“知道得比别人更多”而获得心理上的满足，以显示自己的“能耐”。
自我保护的需要
人生活在这个世界，安全的需要是最基本的需要，每个人都有属于自己所不愿为外人所知的隐私。为了不让自己的隐私暴露而影响正常的生活，大家都有意无意地在打探别人隐私的同时为自己设置一道防护栏。在潜意识里有两手准备：一是在自己隐私受到威胁时用以威胁他人，二是借鉴别人的过错来完善或提醒自己。
宣泄个人欲望的需要
按照弗洛伊德的观点，人们对别人隐私的窥探欲，来自于童年，来自对自己身世和来历的好奇心。儿童通过窥探父母隐私来了解自身来历，是一种成长过程中的正常欲求。如果一个人在童年时期破解了父母的全部情感隐私，从理论上讲，这个孩子长大之后，将不会过分热衷于别人的隐私。只有那些儿童期窥探欲没有得到足够满足的人，到成年期后才会疯狂地窥探别人的隐私。有极少数人，通过窥探别人隐私的过程，来满足一种扭曲、变态的原始欲求，形成了一种变态人格。虽然由于社会文化背景的不同，我们不能完全用弗洛伊德的观点来评判窥探别人隐私的动机，但确实有人在窥视别人隐私时，会下意识地把自己压抑的欲望、憎恨或期待投射到别人身上，尤其是那些性隐私被曝光的人身上，借着别人的身体，依靠自己的想象，在意念上发泄自己的性欲和攻击欲，在心理上得到报复性或胜利的满足。
心理学者苏晓波曾说：“只要人格还没有成熟，人们就还会热衷于窥探别人的隐私；只要还有欲望被深深压抑的人，就会有人挖空心思地揭露别人隐私，借着别人的隐私，宣泄自身的欲望；只要人性还存在着缺陷，窥探隐私的喜好，就永远不会结束。”



人人都有偷窥欲
心理学家说，偷窥源自于人类天生的好奇心，是人人都具有的欲望。但作为理性的人，应该把窥私欲控制在适当的尺度之下，以不能侵犯他人隐私为标准。中国人常常讲的一句话就是“非礼勿视”。如果超过此标准，在心理学层面上讲，就可以称为‘好奇心过盛’，或是‘好奇心失控’，再进一步，就是‘好奇心变态’。


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Topic 2:
How Many People Had You Experienced Sexually? & Don’t forget condom!



根据资料显示，2005年杜蕾斯全球性调查的参与者来自41个国家/地区，是全球最大规模的性健康调查。

调查表明，2005年中国内地地区人均性伴侣人数为3.1个,在排名中倒数第2,倒数第一的是印度为3人,全球人均性伴侣人数为9个。从2004年全球第一的19.3人,到今年的倒数第二3.1人,这个落差是不是太大了?对此青岛伦敦杜蕾斯有限公司的商贸中心总监陶峻表示：这是因为今年参加调查的女性人数大大增加，为了招揽到更多女性参加调查，杜蕾斯公司在多个热门网站的女性频道投放了宣传。虽然去年的数字比较让人难以接受，但杜蕾斯公司也是通过专业的国际公司进行的调查。




世界范围内，每人平均拥有9个性伴侣。男性的平均性伴侣人数超过女性，分别是10.2人和6.9人。土耳其人的平均性伴侣数最多，为14.5人，其次是 澳大利亚人（13.3人）。印度人的平均性伴侣数最少，为3人，其次是中国人（3.1人）。65％的中国香港地区参与调查者仅有一个性伴侣。



根据调查，首次发生性行为的全球平均年龄为17.3岁。新一代年轻人首次发生性行为的平均年龄要小于上一代人。在16~20岁的青少年中，首次发生性行为的平均年龄为16.3岁。女孩在性方面比男孩要积极一些。




冰岛人首次发生性行为的平均年龄比其他国家低(15.6岁)，其次是德国人(15.9岁)。印度人首次发生性行为的平均年龄最大（19.8岁）。



中国内地的首次性行为平均年龄为18.3岁。

恰巧今天是2007年12月1日，世界艾滋病日。科学研究表明，艾滋病传播有三种途径，一是血液传播，二是性传播，三是母婴传播。比起性传播致病的几率，血液传播和母婴传播致病的几率要高得多。经研究证实，性传播途径必须有一定量的带毒体液和皮肤或黏膜有破损为前提，其传播概率是1/500，这也是为什么要大力推广安全套的原因；携带艾滋病毒的母亲生育婴儿，导致婴儿感染的几率为30％；输入病毒携带者的血浆感染几率几乎达到100％。这些数据说明，感染艾滋病毒，在大多数情况下，并不是由于不健康性行为，而是由于输血感染等“正常”行为。

当然，这并不是让大家放纵自己，只不过借此机会提醒大家，作为思想成熟的成年人，无论任何时候，只要不想要  baby  ，就一定要记得使用安全套。因为，男性的生殖器因为温度和适度适中，很容易滋生细菌，当然，这些细菌并不是什么性病，正常人体的表面都会带有。
只不过男性外生殖器部位因为环境适宜，所以细菌的密度比身体其他裸露部位要高很多。而且，因为阴毛密集，导致很难清洗干净。
行房的过程中，如果没有任何保护措施，滋生存留在男性外生殖器上的细菌，会随着冲压运动注入女性生殖器内，如果在ml过程中内壁受到损伤，细菌就很容易侵入了。当然，女性的生殖器有自我净化杀菌的能力。不过能力的强弱，取决于个人的身体素质。
但是，无论身体强弱，只要阴道内的含菌量超出了自身免疫系统可以杀灭的范围，就会引起发炎，不及时治疗，自身抵抗力又不强，就会很容易引起恶化，最后发展成阴道炎，宫颈炎，宫颈糜烂，盆腔炎，附件炎，子宫内膜炎等一系列妇科疾病。这些疾病，也是导致女性不孕的直接原因。所以，如果不是遗传因素，女性的不孕，很多时候，男性要承担主要责任。即便是成功怀孕，如果女性生殖器内细菌超标，对胎儿的健康也会产生极为严重的影响。

所以，如果您有受孕计划，最好夫妻两个人一起先去医院做优生优育检查。并且行房受孕之前，男性最好清洗外生殖器，让抑菌型沐浴露泡沫覆盖生殖器三分钟，尽量减少进入女性身体的部位的带菌量。如果您暂时没有受孕计划，为了您和您爱人以及您未来宝宝的健康,请您一定使用安全套。
如果，   you had experienced many people sexually      , 那为了自己的健康和将来的孩子，做好必要保护就更显重要了。
这些,作为女人可以不了解,但是作为一个成熟，有责任感的男人绝对要知道。
过去, 男人不喜欢使用安全套,很大程度上是由于羞于选购,找不到合适自己尺码,或者使用感觉问题。不过现在, 生活急送能解决您的所有难题。
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画外音：
Phoebe: My grandmother has this new boyfriend, and they're both kind of insecure in bed. Oh, and deaf. So they're constantly, like, having to reassure each other that they're having a good time. You have no idea how loud they are!

这里所说得   noise   ,是指男女在嘿咻时情不自禁发出的声音。
人虽贵为万物灵长，但是在这种原始的时刻，却时常与猫咪和考拉没什么两样。
不过这种事情英文应该怎么表达呢？好像目前是用部分拟声词的首字母来代指的。拼为：

R....O....O....M~~~

个人感觉还是模仿得挺像的。

音外画：



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Odds & Ends
Phoebe:If I were Omnipotent for a day, I would want um,world peace, no more hunger…and bigger boobs! : Boobies, breasts

Chandler: Uh, if I were omnipotent for a day, I'd.. make myself omnipotent forever.

Rachel: See, there's always one guy. (Mocking) "If I had a wish, I'd wish for three more wishes."
Joey:Hey, if little Joey’s dead then I got no reason to live.

英文中阳萎和万能的发音在后半部分很相近，所以  joey  误听了这个词。当  Ross over pronounce “omnipotent”   的时候，  Joey  又听成了  I am impotent.   我是阳萎的。所以才惹恼了  Ross  .

Ross:You just nodded off again: have a nap

Chandler:You got way too much free time: (informal) to a great degree or by a great distance; very much

Chandler:Well, aren’t we Mr. “the glass is half empty”
Mr．“The glass is half empty”
英语谚语中，悲观的人看到半杯酒会说“这杯酒一半已经空了   (The glass is half empty)   ”，而乐观的人则说还有半杯酒。剧中钱德勒和乔伊请罗斯去看球，但多疑的罗斯怀疑他们是因为只有一张多余的票，不知道该请那个姑娘看球才请他的。钱德勒嘲讽他的悲观思想说，我们难道是“看见半杯酒就说它一半已经空了”的那种人吗?

Today is the day Carol and I first…consummated our physical relationship, you know what, I’d better pass on the game. I think I’m just gonnna to home and think about my ex-wife and her lesbian lover.

The hell with hockey, let’s all do that!
The hell with something is a generalized term of abuse

Alright, maybe it’ll take my mind off it. Do you promise to buy me a big thumb finger?

I worked in a Dairy Queen, why?
Dairy Queen :Ice Cream restaurant

Who's FICA? Why's he getting all my money? I mean, what- Chandler, look at that.
FICA
瑞秋拿到了第一张工资单，意外地发现金额很少，而且一个   FICA   的家伙拿走了她的很多钱。其实，这是从来没有工作过的瑞秋不了解情况，FICA并非是哪个人，而是根据联邦保险法案   (Federal Insurance Contribution Act)   规定员工必须交纳的社会保障金和医疗保险金，它可以占到收入的百分之七左右，对低收入者影响较大。

I swear I’ve seen birds do this on Wild Kingdom.
Mutual of Omaha's Wild Kingdom (also titled Wild Kingdom) was one of television's first wildlife/nature programs, and stands among the genre's most popular and longest-running examples. Wild Kingdom premiered in a Sunday afternoon timeslot on NBC in January 1963

Look at you in the apron.

I'm a duplex.

And while we're on the subject of news..


Chandler:We ‘ll take a brief time out.

Ross:Peach pit, yes, Bunny? Actually, nectarines .
pit means the hard inner (usually woody) layer of the pericarp of some fruits (as peaches or plums or cherries or olives) that contains the seed; while nectarine is a peach with a smooth-skinned fruit that is a frequent somatic mutation of the normal peach   (油桃)

tell me all the dirt!

Let’s talk reality for a second

chocolate blobbies on the cookies

巧克力小块

Monica:We thought since Phoebe was staying over tonight we’d have kinda like a slumber Party thing.
an overnight party of girls who dress in nightclothes and, and pass the night talking

Phoebe:But, um I lost the tweezers, so we can’t operate, but we can prep the guy.
tweezers are any of various small metal instruments that are usually held between the thumb and forefinger, are used for plucking, holding, or manipulating, and consist of two legs joined at one; prep means prepare

Monica: (on phone) Could you please tell me what this is in reference to? (Listens) Yes, hold on. (To Rachel) Um, they say there's been some unusual activity on your account.

Monica:Rachel has left the building, can you call back?

Jack and the Beanstalk.

瑞秋后悔自己离家出走，菲比则用《杰克和魔豆   (  Jack and the Beanstalk  ) 》的故事劝慰她。这是著名的西方童话：杰克用一头牛换了三颗魔豆，妈妈生气地将魔豆扔出窗外，第二天魔豆长得高入云霄，杰克爬上魔豆，从巨人那里偷走了金币和会下金蛋的母鸡。菲比的用意是告诉瑞秋，虽然你放弃了牛，但你得到了自立生活的魔豆。

But see, it was a plan ,you know, it was clear, it was figured out, and now everything ‘s just kinda like…  floopy? Floopy is an adjective that one uses when one can't think of a suitable definition to describe a certain something.

So what,you are not the only one. I mean, half the time we don’t know where we are going.

It says to call this number if you're not completely satisfied with this candy bar. Well, I'm not completely satisfied.

Listen, it's kind of an emergency. Well, I guess you know that, or we'd be in the predicament room.

I’m in a lot of pain here, alright? My face is dented. Well, you have to wait your turn

Any minute now.

I’m so sorry, you guys, I didn’t mean to bring you down: make sb unhappy

I don't even have a 'pl'.

相当于:计划？八字还没一撇呐！

Bonehead, bonehead: dumb, stupid person

George Stephannopoulos
莫尼卡发现送比萨饼的把比萨送错了，送到了对面楼里的乔治•斯特凡诺普洛斯(  George Stephanopoulos  )手里，莫尼卡为此感到兴奋，因为斯特凡诺普洛斯是一位很有名的人。现实生活中，斯特凡诺普洛斯是克林顿总统时期白宫负责政策和政治运作的总统高级顾问，后离职去哥伦比亚大学教书，其人长得英俊性感，因此莫尼卡和瑞秋等很激动。


Excuse me, look, we've been here for over an hour, and a lot of people less sick than my friend have gone in. I mean, that guy with the toe thing? Who's he sleeping with? (She slides the gladd panel over and Chandler talks through it in a loud voice.) Oh, c'mon Dora, don't be mad... I know we both said some things we didn't mean, but that doesn't mean we still don't love each other. (To the waiting room.) Y'know, I feel like I've lost her.. (She slides the panel back, he turns, and it takes him by surprise.) Ba-!

Yeah, I think you have to draw him out, and then, when you do, he is a preppy animal.
“draw sb out means to make someone feel less nervous, preppy means relating to or being a style of dress characterized especially by classic clothing and neat appearance

Ross: I remember the moonlight coming through the window- and her face had the most incredible glow.

Chandler: Yes, the moon, the glow, the magical feeling, you did this part- Could I get some painkillers over here, please?

Joey: He's right, enough, already. What is the big deal about today? So you slept with her for the first time, so what? You slept with her for seven years after that.

Ross: Look, it's just a little more complicated...

Chandler: Well, what? What? What is it? That she left you? That she likes women? That she left you for another woman that likes women?

Ross: Little louder, okay, I think there's a man on the twelfth floor in a coma that didn't quite hear you...

Oh come on, admit it! All things considered, you had fun tonight.

Fun? Where was the fun? Tell me specifically, which part was the fun part? Where's my puck?

Finders keepers, losers weepers: an old maxim often used by children to justify keeping their lost toys

You gotta do it, man.

I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever—(to Chandler)—can't do it. (to the kid) Listen, uh- gimme back my puck

No rough holding in my ER.





Tags - 老友记 , friends , 六人行 , 第一季 , 第四集 ]]> http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?11 evin <> Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:58:23 +0000 http://www.tianyahaige.net/read.php?11 Dating Language

Phoebe:He walked me to the subway and said 'We should do this again!'
Monica: Uh, no. Loosely translated 'We should do this again' means 'You will never see me naked'.
Joey: Since always. It's like dating language. Y'know, like 'It's not you' means 'It is you'.
社会文明程度在不断提高，民众智商，情商，忍商平均水平也有了长足的进步。直白的语言已经进了博物馆的橱窗，用当代语言交谈，就要有相当read between the line的能力。下面罗列一些当今流行的男女约会用语，并附上解读。虽然有很多特例可以用来证伪，但是这些语言对于很多人来说，是仍然具有普适性的。


女用约会语言部分解读：
1．我们还是当朋友好了——其实你还是有多余的利用价值
2．我想我真的不适合你——我根本就不喜欢你
3．其实你人很好——我不想跟你在一起
4．你人真的很好——我真的不想跟你在一起
5．我的心中牵挂着一个人——那个人是我特地虚设用来挡像你这种人的
6．你给我个时间考虑——没给我时间，我怎么跑得掉......
7．但你的温柔我会铭记在心的——猪头！光温柔是没有用的，还需要钱钱......
8．你真的很可爱——你真的很幼稚。
9．你真的是超级可爱耶——猪头！不要像小朋友一样啦！
10．别急嘛，我们可以先作朋友——我可以趁这个时间找男朋友

男用约会语言部分解读：
1. 我过会儿再打电话给你。(下辈子吧！)
2. 其实我刚刚一直在想你。(昨天没有，前天也没有。)
3. 我绝对不会告诉别人。(认识的人除外)
4. 你的过去我不在乎。(如果你没做什么坏事的话)
5. 你是我的唯一……(唯一不知情的)
6. 这一次我是认真的！(这是男人的口头禅)
7.我爱你。(期限到我不爱你为止)
8.相信我，我跟她己经分了。(分？是分不清楚啊！)
9.我绝对不会说谎！(但是也不会说实话)
10.我最近会到南(北、中)部出差。(别忘了告诉他你在搜集旅馆的火柴盒，请他务必带回来。)


音外画：善意的谎言   cushions the blow  



    
Joey: Yeah. Cushions the blow.
Chandler: Yeah, it's like when you're a kid, and your parents put your dog to sleep, and they tell you it went off to live on some farm.

画外音：How long is it?

Monica: No, no, no. They say it's the same as the distance from the tip of a guy's thumb to the tip of his index finger.
Joey: That's ridiculous!
Ross: Can I use.. either thumb?
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Monica: Wait a minute! We're talking about someone that I'm going out with?
All: Yeah!
Rachel: And did you notice...? (She spreads her thumb and index finger.)
The Guys: (reluctantly) Yeah.
食色性也。古往今来，尤其是近年来随着观念的开放，茶余饭后，饮食男女越来越多地谈及与性有关的话题。而谈及性话题，难免要提及“阴茎”的话题。


就像男人们搞出好多判断女性胸部真实大小的诀窍一样，女性们也一直试图得出从可视的外表来判断男性宝贝大小的诀窍。诸如看脚，看手，看鼻子等等，可谓精彩纷呈、不一而足。


在friends 剧情中，有关这方面的讨论不只一处。甚至  Rachel  也竟然用刚从  Mon  那里学来的判断标准来帮  Mon  考察  little Alan  的大小, 你可曾有以这种方式  look after your best friends  呢？呵呵.


医学报告指出：大约每3个男人中，就有2个人觉得自己的阴茎太短太细！可见男性朋友在潜意识中，是多么希望自己够更长更粗！而且，在这方面丢人，对男性来说，无疑是对自尊心致命的打击。这样，我们就更容易理解  Ross  为什么会说：  Can I use.. either thumb?

现代的女性们也经常互相谈论自己伴侣的勃起长度是否够长够大。根据国内权威人士调查，以种族来看，巴西男性勃起时平均14.5公分，美国男性12.89公分，中国男性则是11.39公分；亚洲人阴茎都比外国人短，这是种族决定的，一般讲，勃起以后不少于10公分都属于正常的。
至于大拇指到食指之间的距离，同几个老友测量了一下，一般都在16-19公分之间，到底有没有联系，具不具备普适标准，只能是如人饮水了。
另外，医学界发表的权威阴茎勃起长度公式表明，只要知道一个男人的身高，就能利用简单的数学计算过程，算出他的勃起长度。即：（7.41+0.06*一个男人的身高公分数）*0.65。这也是女性潜意识中普遍喜欢身材较为高大男性的原因之一。
专家也表示身高矮的男性也别伤心，因为这个计算公式虽然适用大部分的男性，但是你说不定是少数不一样的特例。还有专家认为，事实上一个男人的阴茎在勃起时只要达到5公分就够用了，太过巨大反而会让女方不舒服！


那么到底   How long is it ?
与其这样才来猜去，还真不如自己测一下。
中国市面上刚推出一种新型安全套，是国内三大安全套生产厂商之一的高邦集团设计生产的。据称，通过其刻度安全套的测量数据，能让更多的男性消费者了解自身的情况，不再为大小而感到困惑。


据描述该产品特点是在安全套身部、储精囊处均有刻度，可有两种功能，一个是可丈量生殖器勃起时的长度，二是可测量精液量的多少。根据世界卫生组织(WHO)所规定的正常精液标准，男性的一次排精量应在2毫升～7毫升之间，健康成年男子每次排出的精液，随着节欲前时间的长短，排出的量也有所不同。禁欲时间越久，贮存在体内的精子也就越多。禁欲时间长，精液量5日内没有排过精(包括性交和手淫的排精)之后的第6天排精量达到3～5毫升，精液量最多者可达10毫升；如果性生活频繁，精液量会越来越少，少至仅有几滴。刻度套的体液测量也让女性考验对方的忠诚度成为现实。

Odds & Ends
Joey: "Warden, in five minutes my pain will be over. But you'll have to live with the knowledge that you sent an honest man to die."

Chandler: Alright, now try taking a puff.

Chandler: Don't think of it as a cigarette. Think of it as the thing that's been missing from your hand. When you're holding it, you feel right. You feel complete.

Phoebe: It's nothing, it's just- Okay. I'm going through my mail, and I open up their monthly, you know, STATEMENT-
Chandler: Oh, Satan's minions at work again...

Phoebe: Okay. I'd- just- I'd never be able to enjoy it. It would be like this giant karmic debt.
这里   Phoebe   所说的   Giant Karmic debt 其实就是一种因果轮回的思想。 类似于一部电影中的经典台词：出来混，迟早都要还的。

Monica: Look, I don't even know how I feel about him yet. Just give me a chance to figure that out.

Monica: I mean, why should I let them meet him? I mean, I bring a guy home, and within five minutes they're all over him. I mean, they're like- coyotes, picking off the weak members of the herd.

Paula: Listen. As someone who's seen more than her fair share of bad beef, I'll tell you: that is not such a terrible thing. I mean, they're your friends, they're just looking out after you.

Paula: Well, you do realise the odds of that happening are a little slimmer if they never get to meet the guy..

Joey: You can come in, but your filter-tipped little buddy has to stay outside!

Phoebe: 'Dear Ms. Buffay. Thank you for calling attention to our error. We have credited your account with five hundred dollars. We're sorry for the inconvenience, and hope you'll accept this- (Searches in her purse) -football phone as our free gift.' Do you believe this?! Now I have a thousand dollars, and a football phone!

Monica: (to Alan) Thanks. I'll call you tomorrow. (Alan exits, to all) Okay. Okay, let's let the Alan-bashing begin. Who's gonna take the first shot, hmm?

Ross: ...So I think Alan will become the yardstick against which all future boyfriends will be measured.

Rachel: I mean, it-it was like, it was like he made us into a team.

Chandler: Yep, we sure showed those Hassidic jewellers a thing or two about softball..

Ross: Yeah, it's his, uh, innate Alan-ness that-that-that we adore.

Chandler: Well, maybe it's a contest, y'know? Like, collect all five?

Chandler: So I have a flaw! Big deal! Like Joey's constant knuckle-cracking isn't annoying? And Ross, with his over-pronouncing every single word? And Monica, with that snort when she laughs? I mean, what the hell is that thing? ...I accept all those flaws, why can't you accept me for this?

Rachel: Ohh-ho-hooohhh. The hair comes out, and the gloves come on.

Paula: Waitwait.. we talking about the coyotes here? All right, a cow got through!
Monica: Can you believe it? ...Y'know what? I just don't feel the thing. I mean, they feel the thing, I don't feel the thing.
Paula: Honey.. you should always feel the thing. Listen, if that's how you feel about the guy, Monica, dump him!
Monica: I know.. it's gonna be really hard.
Paula: Well, he's a big boy, he'll get over it.
Chandler: I have one now and then. no-one- no-one's ever put it like that before.

Chandler: Joey ate my last stick of gum, so I killed him. Do you think that was wrong?

Phoebe: And on my way over here, I stepped in gum. ...What is up with the universe?!

Joey: Even nicer when everyone gets to wear their underwear..

Phoebe: Wait, wait, I'm getting a deja vu...no, I'm not.
The opposite of déjà vu is jamais vu.

Phoebe: You know.. you let your guard down, you start to really care about someone, and I just- I- (starts chewing her hair)





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同性恋成因探讨

关于同性恋的成因，学术界主要有三种看法。
第一种观点认为是由生理因素造成，称为素质性同性恋。
第二种观点认为是由心理社会因素所致，称为境域性同性恋。
第三种观点，是一些心理学家认为，人类的性倾向有双向发展的可能。同性恋的原因与异性恋的原因没有什么不同，两者同样都是有意义的生活方式，其差别只是选择对象的性别不同而已。


第一种看法是以遗传因素、激素水平和大脑结构来考察同性恋问题。第二种观点包括精神分析的观点和行为主义观点。
生理因素
　　关于遗传因素，有些学者认为，可能是先天遗传的原因导致一个从幼儿起便产生性倒错，进而形成同性恋倾向。比如有的女孩子生来就具有男孩气质，她们不喜欢花衣服、洋娃娃这些女性的物品或玩具，而喜欢刀枪、棍棒，因此她们被称为“假小子”。可以说，她们的思维和行为方式以及整体气质都是男性化的，角色认同于男性，因此她们没有一般女孩子们的娇柔，喜欢和一些弱小的女孩一起玩，去保护她们。这种做法强化了她们内心男性化的欲望，显示了同性恋的倾向。
　　进入青春期，她们的性取向依然是男性化的，异性对她们并不能产生很强的吸引力，因此她们的性对象很容易转向同性，进而形成同性恋。对双胞胎的性爱指向研究发现，同卵双胞胎兄弟中若一人是同性恋，那么另一人也是，几率高达50%以上。一项以4对同性恋兄弟为对象的DNA分析发现，3对兄弟的X染色体的一个特殊区域，兄弟两人竟有5个基因相同。
　　然而，这些兄弟并无明显的女人气，除了性倾向，他们俩是不同的。说明遗传可能会影响一个人的性取向，但并不是产生同性恋的唯一原因。还有一些研究揭示了同性恋形成的先天因素，如胎儿在脑分化阶段所受的性激素刺激以及母亲在怀孕期间所受到的心理创伤等也可能影响胎儿未来的性倾向。
　　关于性激素水平，有科学家做的动物实验发现，向怀孕的母鼠子宫里注射激素，确实能够极大地改变其子代的性行为，因此，有人推测是不是类似的情形也同样会发生在人类身上，即通过胎儿期的激素注射改变其性心理和行为。但鉴于人类道德法律问题，这些实验无法在人体进行，因而也没有确凿的证据。此外，有科学家分别测量了同性恋者和异性恋者的激素水平，发现同性恋现象与激素水平有关，但难以确定究竟是激素水平的变化导致了同性恋，还是同性恋的心理及行为引起了激素水平的变化。
　　关于大脑结构与同性恋的研究，脑科学研究至今还没有作出令世人公认的同性恋完全是先天形成的结论。它存在的疑问也是究竟哪一个是原因还是结果。
心理社会因素
　　精神分析学说认为，儿童期3~5岁是人类性心理发展过程中的关键阶段。这一时期幼儿对自己的异性生身亲长即父亲或母亲产生特殊强烈的依恋之情，特别是怀有本能的性欲渴求，同时伴随产生的是对同性生身亲长的敌对感。这就是恋父情结或恋母情结。在此阶段，双亲对儿童的性本能既不采取过分抑制，又不采取过分刺激的合理态度，儿童就会顺利通过这一阶段。相反，如果儿童在此期间心理遭受创伤，那么恋父情结或恋母情结就会潜藏在意识里，并继续影响个体的心理发育，最终在性成熟后发生相似的心理异常。
　　行为主义特别重视的是伙伴关系、偶然的机遇以及特殊的经历。一个人在与异性交往中受挫，有过不愉快的经验，异性恋情感得不到正常的发展，而同时又受到同性的引诱，就会产生同性恋的倾向。比如童年时期的性别认同错误，家庭教育中性教育被忽视，或者被拒绝，或者被歪曲（异性化教育环境），乱伦行为等这些偶然的机会或者特殊的经历会改变一个人的性取向，形成同性恋。
　　如在单性环境中也容易促使同性恋的形成。单性环境一般指那些与异性完全隔离的小环境，比如监狱、修道院、军队、睡大通铺的民工。在这些环境中，异性往往很少或根本见不到。因此，当人们有性发泄的要求时，目标就会转向同性。
　　可以说，同性恋的形成有着复杂的生理因素和社会心理因素。由单性环境因素引起的同性恋不稳定，一旦脱离这种环境，多数同性恋者会终止同性恋伙伴关系。恋母情结或恋父情结引起的同性恋通过心理治疗如精神分析可能会有所改善。而遗传因素所致的同性恋多半从儿童期就形成，且难以矫正。
尽管我们可以对同性恋持宽容的态度，但无论是从生理、心理和社会等各个角度看，它毕竟是一种偏离正常的现象，因为人类的衍生是靠两性关系。而且，男性同性恋是爱滋病的重要传播途径。所以，对于主要由后天环境，心理因素导致的同性恋症候群，应该积极地给与帮助治疗。对于先天因素导致的同性恋应该给与必要的尊重。但是尊重，包容绝不等于纵容。积极引导民众特别是青少年，树立正确的性趋向，追求合乎自然规律的性文化，才是一个健康社会应尽的职责。


随手记点东西：
1. 初吻
=======Rachel: Everything you need to know is in that first kiss.





画外音：                        
最新研究显示，接吻的重要性或许远远超出人们的想象，对于女性来说，一吻尤其是初吻或许足以定终身，因为接吻的感觉如何是女性衡量对方是否可以做终身伴侣的一个重要标尺。
美国纽约州立大学奥尔巴尼分校、 纽约城市大学以及位于宾夕法尼亚州的奥尔布莱特学院的研究者联手在1041名18岁～25岁的大学生中展开调查。研究结果发表在《进化心理学》的网络版上。

初吻可以“一锤定音”
研究发现，对于女性来说，接吻是女性衡量潜在伴侣能否跟自己和睦相处的一个重要方式。“感觉良好的一吻”可以帮助女性确认男友值得自己付出和托付终身，而如果接吻的感觉不好，那么这名男友将遭到她的排斥。
从长远来看，女性将接吻看作促进双方亲密关系的一个重要途径，是帮助她衡量伴侣是否忠诚，对自己是否在意的方式。
研究还发现，对于男性来说吻的意义就小得多。男性往往把吻看作是性的前奏。
来自纽约州立大学奥尔巴尼分校的研究者戈登•盖洛普博士说：“一个吻所传达的信息可以对恋情产生深刻的影响，甚至是结束一段恋情的主要决定因素。虽然让一对男女结合的力量有许多，但是接吻，尤其是初吻，可以一锤定音。”

研究还发现，在研究对象中，对接吻不满意而能跟一名男子发生性关系的女性不足一半，而且，女性一般不喜欢在第一次约会中就接“湿吻”。相反，男性似乎不太介意接吻的效果，不经过接吻这个程序或者接吻效果不好，他们也愿意继续性关系。


2.====== What you guys don't understand is, for us, kissing is as important as any part of it.
======Yeah, I think for us, kissing is pretty much like an opening act, you know, I mean it’s like the stand-up comedian you have to sit through before Pink Floyd comes out.
====== Yeah, and-and it's not that we don't like the comedian, it's that-that... that's not why we bought the ticket.










画外音：
加利福尼亚大学精神病学家所做的研究也显示，男性平均每 52秒就会联想到性方面的事情，而女性大概一天只会想到一次左右。于是，很多女性开始抱怨男性是如何如何只会用下半身思考。其实，就像女性更多的是注重情感上的满足和享受一样，大部分的男性在本我层面的底层需求导致了下半身冲动。而且，研究表明，男性的大脑负责控制性意识的区域的面积却几乎是女性的两倍。当然，这样说并不是为了给男同胞一个做衣冠禽兽的理由。在道德和法律约束下的社会化进程中，男人成长的轨迹伴随着思考地点从下面逐渐提升到上面的一个过程。只不过女性朋友也应该了解一下男士们的想法======
As men, we are not proud of this , and we don’t feel shame about this.

词组：Stand-up comedy
It is comedy in which a comedian stands alone in front of an audience and tells jokes; sit through means you stay something (esp. unpleasant one) until it is finished;  Pink Floyd is a very famous Rock band in America.

解疑：Pink Flovd
平克•弗洛伊德(Pink Floyd)是美国著名的歌手，他演唱的《白色圣诞》脍炙人口。中钱德勒等人在讨论男女对接吻的不同看法。钱德勒说，对于男人来说，接吻就像平克•弗洛伊德出场前进行垫场演出的喜剧演员似的(It's like the stand-up comedian you have to sit through before Pink Floyd comes out．)。

3．======Chandler: The problem is, though, after the concert's over, no matter how great the show was, you girls are always looking for the comedian again, y'know? I mean, we're in the car, we're fighting traffic... basically just trying to stay awake.
======Rachel: Yeah, well, word of advice: Bring back the comedian. Otherwise next time you're gonna find yourself sitting at home, listening to that album alone.
解疑：这里两个人在打prison lingo. Joey们如果听不懂，可以把show 替换成sexual perform ，把comedian替换成kissing.

4.====== she has issues. Issues在这里是烦恼、问题的意思。

5．======He's out banging other women over the head with a club, while she sits at home trying to get the mastodon smell out of the carpet!

what does "Bang other women over the head" mean?


解疑：
Club
棒状物，这里指的是男性的penis.
Bang
Bang is a  slang which means to copulate ,to have sexual intercourse with someone.

6. I'll, uh, catch up with you in the Ice Age.

7. Marty’s still totally paranoid.
Paranoid:  full of unreasonable distrust of other people.

8. the swallowing slowed me down.

9. Chandler: Oh, uh, that would be mine. See, I wrote a note to myself, and then I realised I didn't need it, so I balled it up and... (sees that Monica is glaring at him) ...now I wish I was dead.

10. I just don't wanna give them any more ammunition than they already have.

11. That's because as far as my parents are concerned, Ross can do no wrong. Y'see, he's the Prince. Apparently they had some big ceremony before I was born.

12. Do that for another two hours, you might be where I am right about now.

13. Kinda puts that whole pillow thing in perspective, huh, Mon?

14. I mean presumably, the biggest part of your job is done.

15. The big one had a thing for you, didn't she?

16. I know this is going to sound unbelievably selfish, but, were you planning on bringing up the whole baby/lesbian thing? Because I think it might take some of the heat off me.

17. We ran into her parents at the club: meet someone unexpectedly, bump into

18. And I read about these women trying to have it all, and I thank God 'Our Little Harmonica' doesn't seem to have that problem.

19. So, Ross, what's going on with you? Any stories? (Digs her elbow into his hand.) No news, no little anecdotes to share with the folks?

20. Well, y'know, these people are pros. They know what they're doing, they take their time, they get the job done.

21. She's like this high-powered, driven career type.

22. you may wanna steer clear of the word 'dumped'. Chances are he's gonna be this, this broken shell of a man, y'know, so you should try not to look too terrific, I know it'll be hard.

23. Sorry I'm late, I was stuck at work.

24. she's very supportive.

25. funny, we agreed we’d spend the rest of our lives together, things change, roll with punches. I believe Julia’s on the table.
roll with punches
means to cope with and withstand adversity, especially by being flexible; while, on the table means up for discussion


26. 'Cause I think that borders on child abuse.

27. I wasn’t dreading tomorrow enough.

28.Well how, how do you fit into this whole thing.

29. Minnie if it’s a girl, as in Mouse? as in my grandmother.
Minnie is the girlfriend of Mickey Mouse,

30.what are we supposed to be seeing here?

31.wh-are you welling up? .
Welling up :
if a quantity of liquid wells up, it comes to the surface in a sudden rush. Shed the tears overwhelmingly

32. Mind, y'know, if-if everything works out, and you guys end up getting married and having kids- and everything- I just hope they have his old hairline and your old nose. Okay, I know it was a cheap shot, but I feel so much better now.
cheap shot means  an unfair or unsporting verbal attack on a vulnerable target.
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从心理学以及星座命理学角度看关于逃婚的若干问题。


----------it started about a half hour before the wedding. I was in the room where we were keeping all the presents, and I was looking at this gravy boat. This really gorgeous Lamauge gravy boat. When all of a sudden I realized that I was more turned on by this gravy boat than by Barry! And then I got really freaked out, and that's when it hit me: how much Barry looks like Mr. Potato Head. Y'know, I mean, I always knew looked familiar, but... Anyway, I just had to get out of there, and I started wondering 'Why am I doing this, and who am I doing this for?'.
偏执型婚前症候。实际上，Barry还是原来的那个人，并没有改变，改变的，恰恰是Rachel的标准。当Rachel紧紧盯住未婚夫的局部缺陷时，缺陷就会被放大，甚至掩盖了他身上其他的特质，这就是偏执。


---------- all of my life, everyone has always told me, 'You're a shoe! You're a shoe, you're a shoe, you're a shoe!'. And today I just stopped and I said, 'What if I don't wanna be a shoe? What if I wanna be a- a purse, y'know? Or a- or a hat!
偏执者很难发现自己的立场偏差，尤其在这种临近婚期的状态下，她们更会认为自己要求的是正确的。所以在婚期临近时，最重要的是及时辨别自身的偏执表现。


---------- Barry, I'm sorry... I am so sorry... I know you probably think that this is all about what I said the other day about you making love with your socks on, but it isn't... it isn't, it's about me.
由星座婚前症候群症状推测，Rachel的人物原型的星座应该是风象星座(水瓶座、双子座、天秤座)。这是所有星座里面最可怕的一群，基本上没有人知道他们会干些什么，而他们也什么都干得出来，他们不会有什么忧郁症，因为既然不“想”了，就可以不要了，举凡订婚后悔婚，婚礼上跟伴郎跑掉…，什么奇怪的事大概都会做的出来，大家千万也别去提醒他们，免得他们在此时发挥创意，不妨建议风象可来个爬山结婚，海底婚礼之类的，也算是暂时良性转移他们对婚姻的恐惧感。



随手记点东西：

1/ central perk
Perk, informal to become more cheerful and begin to show interest or make someone become more cheerful and begin to show interest.
e.g. I had a cup of coffee to perk me up.

2/ you are going out with the guy, there gotta be something wrong with him.

3/ have a hump and a hairpiece

4/I don’t want her to go through with what I went through Carl.

5/It’s just two people going out to dinner and not having sex.

6/This guy says hello, I want to kill myself.

7/I just feel like someone reach down my throat , grabbed my small intestine, pulled it out my neck and tied it around my neck.

8/aura:
An effect or feeling that seems to surround and come from a person or place.

9/cleanse
Formal to make a cut or wound free from dirt

10/murky
Dark and unpleasant

11/ to hell with her.

12/ why does everyone keep fixating on that?

13/ Did I say that out loud.

14/They seemed to take it pretty well.

15/Oh really, so that hysterical phone call I got from a woman sobbing at 3:00 A.M., "I'll never have grandchildren, I'll never have grandchildren." was what?  A wrong number?
是sobbing at 不是at sobbing,字幕错了。

16/strip joint

17/de caff

18/Okay, everybody, this is Rachel, another Lincoln High survivor. (to Rachel) This is everybody, this is Chandler, and Phoebe, and Joey, and- you remember my brother Ross?

19/I realized that I was more turned on by this gravy boat than by Barry! And then I got really freaked out, and that's when it hit me: how much Barry looks like Mr. Potato Head. Y'know, I mean, I always knew looked familiar, but... Anyway, I just had to get out of there, and I started wondering 'Why am I doing this, and who am I doing this for?'. (to Monica) So anyway I just didn't know where to go, and I know that you and I have kinda drifted apart, but you're the only person I knew who lived here in the city.

20/Ooh, I was kinda hoping that wouldn't be an issue

21/pipe organ

22/Chandler: (imitating the characters) Tuna or egg salad?  Decide!

Ross: (in a deep voice) I'll have whatever Christine is having.

Phoebe:  If I let go of my hair, my head will fall off.
他们正在给自己根本听不懂的外文电影做恶搞配音，大家有机会也可以玩一下，据说这还是喜剧演员锻炼自己基本功的常用方法呢，很锻炼想象力和talk show 的能力。

23/It's a metaphor, Daddy!

24/this is probably for the best, y'know? Independence. Taking control of your life.  The whole, 'hat' thing.

25/Buzz him in!

26/this is a Dear Diary moment.

27/I didn't catch your name. Paul, was it?

28/go change 去更衣

29/Here's a little tip, she really likes it when you rub her neck in the same spot over and over and over again until it starts to get a little red.
纯粹恶搞，请勿效仿。这种恶作剧即便是在国外，尺度也有些过了。如果Mon以后真的与Paul走在一起，Joey的这话会给他们三个人带来无穷无尽的麻烦。男人可以在任何事情上都表现出胸襟似海，但却没有一个不对自己真正心爱女人的前男友或者前夫耿介于怀的。
有历史，没关系，请忘了吧。更不要拿出来晒之前鱼水之欢的细节！男人中只有佛陀才忍得住，因为佛不需要女人。


30/Joey and Chandler are coming over to help me put together my new furniture.

31/I cannot feel my legs.

32/'L'-shaped bracket.

33/Done with the bookcase!

34/She always drank it out of the can.

35/You got screwed.

36/look, I know that some girl is going to be incredibly lucky to become Mrs. Barry Finkel, but it isn't me, it's not me.
女孩子拒绝别人求爱时很有用的一句话。

37/steer clear of you.

38/ We haven't had a relationship that has lasted longer than a Mento.
Mento,
is a kind of Jamaican calypso, for the tourist that visited Jamaica, and you can still today find bands on hotels in Jamaica that plays mento.
这句话的意思应该是我们的关系还没有牙买加的那种曲子长久的意思。

39/What are you talking about? 'One woman'? That's like saying there's only one flavor of ice cream for you. Lemme tell you something, Ross. There's lots of flavors out there. There's Rocky Road, and Cookie Dough, and Bing! Cherry Vanilla. You could get 'em with Jimmies, or nuts, or whipped cream! This is the best thing that ever happened to you! You got married, you were, like, what, eight? Welcome back to the world! Grab a spoon!
年初好像有出一个片子叫做《爱情呼叫转移》的，男主人公grab 的 spoon不少，最后体会到自己真正想要的东西的时候，却发现已经失去了。可以说女人就像冰激凌，无论哪种口味，吃到最后终究还是冰激凌，享受它的香甜可口就要承受它的高热多脂。即便是能够明白这个道理，男人看到好吃的冰激凌总还是会动心的，虽然吃过一段时间会发现远没有之前的好吃，但是确晚了。太多人犯过明知道是错的错，这就是命运吧！男人的成长经历，大概就是一个把大脑从下面提到上面来的过程。
Ross固然很不幸，但是Joey的价值观真的不适合Ross的性格。每个人都有自己的活法。这可能就是老友记结尾时Joey依然没有尘埃落定的原因之一吧。

40/ I honestly don't know if I'm hungry or horny.
帮Ross分析一下hungry跟horny的异同。
相同之处：心情都有些躁狂，身体都有些不适。
不同之处：不适的表现一个是酸痛一个是胀痛。

41/ Ever since she walked out on me, I, uh...

42/ it's more of a fifth date kinda revelation.这该是第五次约会时候才说的事儿。
很多朋友看老友记乐道于其中演绎的经典泡妞对白，那么这句话绝对可以上他们的排行榜了。其实，在old friends 的剧情中，应该看到6个人相处的背后都是有一股真诚和尊重在的。当然，由于中西文化的不同，尊重的表达方式和接受尺度都会有所不同，盲目照搬可是会出问题。只要双方都能接受，彼此都是真诚，且是相互尊重的倒也无话可说。不过用像Paul这样的手段骗取芳心，实在并不值得推荐。

43/ I haven't been able to, uh, perform sexually.
关于男女之事，中文中有：炒饭，嘿咻，打本垒等等用法
英文中这方面的隐语有多少呢？大家可以总结一下。

44/ Do you know how long it's been since I've grabbed a spoon? Do the words 'Billy, don't be a hero' mean anything to you?

45/ Even if I could get it together enough to- to ask a woman out.

46/ If can invade Poland, there isn't anything I can't do.

47/ Listen, while you're on a roll, if you feel like you gotta make like a Western omelet or something...

48/I'm telling you last night was like umm, all my birthdays, both graduations, plus the barn raising scene in Witness.
Paul这个满嘴假话的大骗子恐怕只有这一句实话了吧。

49/I doubt it. Mostly regional work.

50/Wow! Would I have seen you in anything?

51/I doubt it. Mostly regional work.

52/Oh wait, wait, unless you happened to catch the Reruns' production of Pinocchio, at the little theater in the park.
这一句的戏剧效果就在最后的定语上。大喘气的幽默风格。

53/I will not take this abuse.

54/You look like you slept with a hanger in your mouth.

55/I think we are getting a little ahead of ourselves here.

56/Are you kidding? I take credit for Paul. Y'know before me, there was no snap in his turtle for two years.      
老友记毕竟是一部电视剧，好多理想化和夸张的成分在。像用snap in one’s turtle这么形象化的词组来指代男女之事，即便是在西方日常生活对话中也是不太常用的。有些听一下就好了，至于学和用的时候，一定要尊重他人的尺度才可以。

57/why would anybody do something like that?

58/I assume we're looking for an answer more sophisticated than 'to get you into bed'.

59/Are you kidding? I'm trained for nothing! I was laughed out of twelve interviews today.

60/And yet you're surprisingly upbeat.

61/you can't live off your parents your whole life.

62/Give her a break, it's hard being on your own for the first time.

63/No, no, I'm not ready!  How can I be ready?  "Hey, Rach!  You ready to jump out the airplane without your parachute?"  

64/It's kinda like a symbolic gesture...

65/Y'know, if you listen closely, you can hear a thousand retailers scream.

66/Welcome to the real world! It sucks. You're gonna love it!

67/You know you probably didn't know this, but back in high school, I had a, um, major crush on you.

68/I always figured you just thought I was Monica's geeky older brother.

69/Oh. Listen, do you think- and try not to let my intense vulnerability become any kind of a factor here- but do you think it would be okay if I asked you out? Sometime? Maybe?
这句话是正话反说。Actually , Ross 在提醒Rachel 自己的强烈的 vulnerability ，言下之意，是可千万别拒绝我啊。

70/Monica: I said that you had a nice butt, it's just not a great butt.
Joey: Oh, you wouldn't know a great butt if it came up and bit ya.
Joey在这里又开黄腔了，这句话是在进行赤裸裸的肉体恋爱的场景描绘挑逗Mon。不过身为Mon的哥哥，Ross处理得相当恰当，一句：There is an image.感觉有责怪与制止的双重效果。


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